"So fear Allah and according to your ability to listen and obey." (Surah Taghabun: 16).

Prophet sallallaahu 'alaihi wa sallam said,

"Verily this religion is easy".

"If I tell you with some business then do it as best you."

So it is with marriage problems. Marriage in accordance with Islamic sharia is easy. 'Uqbah ibn' Amir radi 'anhu said: "The Messenger sallallaahu' alaihi wa sallam said,

"The best wedding is the easiest". (Narrated by Abu Dawood (no. 2117), Ibn Hibbaan (no. 1262 al-Mawaarid) and ath-Thabrani in Mu'jamul Ausath (I/221, no. 724)).

It was very inappropriate if holding a wedding ceremony with a luxurious atmosphere, excessive in cost. Plus if the bride's dowry demands are too high to the groom. If the groom comes from a wealthy family, perhaps these things can still be met. What if the groom came from poor families who have little income? Is not dowry that is luxurious and expensive it will be a 'wall thickness' for the man to marry a woman that her idol? Marriage is supposed to be easy going to be difficult. Marriage should be a means of worship for the sake of improving the quality of faith and piety towards Allah 'Azza wa Jalla, turned into a means of' buying and selling 'between the groom with the bride. Finally, with a very forced the men and women to delay their desire to get married. If you do not have a strong foundation of faith, maybe they'll find another way to meet the needs of individual desires (naudzubillah).

In the book 'Islamic Fatawa Regarding Women' Shaykh Ibn 'Uthaymeen said, "Marriage with dowry (dowry), which is very expensive and a sumptuous feast is something that is contrary to the sharia. The most blessed marriage is marriage with the cost / burden less. Any reduction in the burden / cost of the wedding, then bertambahlah blessing.

Allah 'Azza wa Jalla has banned any act exaggerated. In the Qur'an, Allah Almighty says,

"... And do not be exaggerated. For Allah loves not those who exaggerated." (Surat al-Anam: 141).

Currently, many people are given the temptation of the abundant wealth. If not balanced with a strong faith, they tend to be tempted to exaggerate in holding wedding parties.

Therefore, the more simple and easy to hold wedding parties and ask for a dowry, then the easier the rescue of the sanctity and honor of men and women. This means the less heinous act (adultery) and kemungkaran, and the number of Muslims growing a lot.

3. Each party must respect

When the husband or wife to enter his house, then he deserves respect and appreciation from their partner. It aims to maintain the dignity and raise the prestige of couples, so that each feels comfortable to build a harmonious household. In this case, couples have an obligation to look for positive points which each is to be used as the support of mutual respect.

4. Trying to please his partner

In family life, even in social life in general, if someone tries to promote and give priority to other people than himself, it means he has planted the seeds of love and closeness to all the people around him.

Thus, each couples are advised to always please his partner, and the prioritization and mengutamakannya from himself, for the sake of strengthening the bond of love between them. The reason is, when the husband saw the wife devoted herself to please him, would he have to do something that could make the heart glad and happy wife. This was done to repay her, or at least recognition of such kindness.

5. Overcoming common problems

Marriage is a form of partnership relations and participation. Partnership which stands on the foundation of common goals, ideals, attitudes, intuition and feelings, as well as collaboration and solidarity in solving every problem. Any problems that arise in the lives of husband and wife, then the problem is viewed as a collective anxiety.

The paradigm thus triggering her husband for trying to work hard in order to give glorious life for his wife and children. Even so, the wife will try to run the affairs of the household in accordance with agreed procedures. Efforts made by the husband and wife is a solution to solve the problem together. Even so, both husband and wife should not hide the problem, even honesty and transparency is needed in order to grow the seeds of trust and mutual understanding, making it easy to find a solution. Could be, the problem has a positive impact to strengthen ties husband and wife.

6. Attitudes qana'ah

Among the signs of harmony in love is the attitude of couples were satisfied with the existing (qana'ah); were satisfied with the available infrastructure of life. Continuing the spoiled attitudes, habits of life department, wasteful and dissipate in childhood or adolescence, including one of the factors that trigger conflict couples. Thus in contrast to the attitude of maturity that demands realistic outlook on life. Hack things and glamorous media heralded publication will not actually create happiness. Because true happiness emanating from the deepest heart and soul, not the opposite of those aspects of the material that actually trigger gap and conflict couples.

7. The attitude of tolerance on both sides

It is not logical if each party expects a permanent ideal behavior of their partners in domestic relationships, because according to the temperament, and true human being sometimes wrong. Husband or wife sometimes forget and make mistakes so often repeated error and mistake. He may make mistakes because of ignorance, and repeating it without realizing it. If any party wishes to punish, judge, or take revenge for any mistakes made by her partner, it means that he is destroying the foundations of domestic harmony.

If we denounce all things, then we will not find anything that is not our fault. Making mistakes is a common thing that only requires the alignment, steering, and guidance, coupled with an attitude of regret and desire for change for the better. Mistakes do not need to be followed by pressure, insults, and intimidation, especially if the error was not related to Islamic norms. Rest assured that someone will not run out the appropriate way to correct the errors and irregularities partner. The best way in this regard is the quiet advice and makes her partner feel that it is for the good of themselves and their families.

8. Be frank

Frank attitude, honesty, and courage is the key to happiness domestic life that can not be nil from mistakes. In that sense, if you make a mistake, then you have to do is rushing to apologize, dare to admit it, and promised not to repeat it again in the future. Attitude does not however mean that outraged the status and your self-esteem. This remark encourages others to respect, trust, and forgive you.

9. Concern and solidarity

Fragment of the most beautiful part of family life is of concern and solidarity that dilakoni husband or wife in the face of difficulties with patience and tremendous struggle. When the wife was standing beside her husband, the husband will feel strong and confident, and vice versa. When a wife or husband feel that their partners feel strong and confident, then he will feel his soul filled with peace and tranquility. This side is in fact the inner essence of marriage and integration between the two sides.

10. Wisdom

Wisdom with each other-until the situation is most grim-helped lay the solid foundation harmony. Could be, because of an error, husband or wife has a great ability to harm his partner, simply just stop doing it wisdom. Wisdom strengthen the spirit of understanding between the two. Or one of two couples may feel more entitled in certain circumstances, but after re-think about it, he no longer keukeuh defend his opinion that could lead to friction.

When he resigned with the motive of wisdom, then he means eliminate the smell of conflict and strife. However, if the selfish attitude and negative superiority replace the position of wisdom, then the establishment of peace and domestic life will be marred. If so, would not be surprised if the problem turns over. Thus, wisdom is a sturdy fortress that protects families from disharmony.

Source:voa-islam.com

"Marriage is my sunnah. Those who are reluctant to implement my sunnah, then he is not of my lineage. Marry you!" For indeed I am proud with the large number of you in front of the entire Ummah. Hucksters of whom have the ability (to marry), then marry. And he who has not able, let him fast because fasting is a shield for him (from a variety of lust). "(Narrated by Ibn Majah (no. 1846)).

From the statement above hadith, it is for anyone who has the ability (in body or mind) to get married. Due to get married to prevent someone from fornication, and multiply the Muslims at the end of time later. Marriage to maintain the dignity and sacredness of ourselves and families.

So great benefits that can be taken from a wedding. Therefore, a Muslim who has the ability to be highly loss if it should delay the wedding. Especially if there are people who decide to live celibacy (alone). Humans who have the intellect will not want to plunge himself into the hole error by celibate. In fact, living a life of celibacy is dry and arid, life has no meaning and purpose. Those who delay marriage or the celibate will always be together which is always raging passions to the spirit and spiritual purity becomes turbid. Selves: they will always be in upheaval against nature. Despite their devotion to be reliable, but the upheaval that occurred continuously will gradually weaken the faith and resilience of life and damage the health and will take him to the valley of adultery.

So, while it was still given the opportunity and ability to get married, get married, O my brothers.